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July 10th, 2008 by admin | Filed under Gender & Women's Studies.
Lets face it, women have pretty high standards for men.. standards the are borderline ridiculous.
I am quoting another poster who I agree with on what women claim to want:
Women claim to want men that: “make a lot of money, intelligent, good-looking, sweet, “cares for her feelings”, spiritual connection, emotional connection, psychological connection, love connection, high social-status, talented, funny, witty, charming, good in bed, plays guitar, plays piano, can sing, artist, writer, poet, loves to take long walks on the beach, tall, strong, powerful, athlete, buys a large diamond ring, can pamper her and shower her with gifts, etc. Often times, a man has to meet all of these women’s expectations.”
Now what woman on earth deserves a man like the one described above other than a woman who also meets those standards?
Women want amazing men when they themselves are not amazing. What is the logic behind this?
Very few men would have a list that long. I haev a list of about 10 things for an ideal partner. Only 10.. and I’ve yet to find a woman with all 10.. (not that I expect to)
Good question!
The fact is, you don’t get who you want, you get who would want you.
there is no logic when it comes to dreams or ideals
Women claim to want men that: “make a lot of money, intelligent, good-looking, sweet, “cares for her feelings”, spiritual connection, emotional connection, psychological connection, love connection, high social-status, talented, funny, witty, charming, good in bed, plays guitar, plays piano, can sing, artist, writer, poet, loves to take long walks on the beach, tall, strong, powerful, athlete, buys a large diamond ring, can pamper her and shower her with gifts, etc. Often times, a man has to meet all of these women’s expectations.”
this is completely unrealistic. you will find that in the real world, women simply dont dream it possible to find a guy with all those characteristics, and some would prefer a man without some of those mentioned =)
big boobs and a nice ass
Its a Cinderella syndrome. Every girl hopes to be found by a Prince Charming and live happily ever after. They may want one, but realism usually will take over and their real standards change. However, their dream still lives on in them so they will still say the standards listed above is what they want.
Women, or men for that matter, don’t know what they want until they meet someone they ‘fall for’ for whatever reason. If you ask someone what they are looking for in a partner they are bound to give an idealised answer. People just say those things in answer to a question, but in reality, you really don’t know.
notice the poster you quoted said what woman want…like a fantasy… i am sure if you listed ALL the qualities you WANT in a woman it would be quite a list as well.. I can’t imagine any 1 PERSON having all of those qualities…
I think people narrow down thier “perfect mate” qualities to waht is REALLY important to them.
It would be amazing to even find one man with all of the qualities you have listed. Lets hope your list is a compilation of several replies, missed the most important quality in any man. Kindness, you find kindness in a man’s heart you find that all the other qualities are just window dressing.
Women really only look for a man who will mow the lawn, take out the trash and carry the groceries, everything else is just extra.
Why does that outlandish list make me think that you wouldn’t be prepared to share any of your worldly goods with a wife however good she was, even if you had them? There is a mean streak running down the centre of a lot of male libidos. A good man would simply have to be tender and generous with his love, that is, out of bed where a couple will spend most of their lives.
Meanness runs right through a person’s character - they are mean with attention, mean in bed, mean with their children and mean with affection and love.
W.Somerset Maugham said: “If you want a woman badly enough, she is worth anything you can afford”. - and he was gay!
Yikes, who wrote that long and ridiculous list! An artist AND an athlete? Long walks on the beach? Plays piano and guitar? Rich? (How does this guy have enough TIME to make money, when his days are filled with painting and singing and playing guitar and writing poetry and buying presents and walking on the beach?) wtf!
Look, bottom line is, like dates like. Hot women date hot men (usually). Middle class people date middle class people. Poor people date poor people. Smart people date smart people. And anyone who has a list that long of things they must have in a partner is insane.
paleeeez!
no man will meet every one of those standards and an intelligent woman will know this. my husband does meet a lot of those, but of course he still isn’t perfect. i did have to wait till i was 29 to meet a man as good as him. he was worth the wait.
What qualities do you think a man needs to deserve a good woman?
for a man the ideal woman to deserve such a man would be the one who prepares and serves him breakfast-nude. but for a woman, her standards for acheiving the unachievable man would encompass all those characterestics which a man cannot empathise with- compassion, love, trust, walking side by side with her man, honesty etc
If people really do have a list, they should be dividing into two columns: Need to Have, and Nice to Have…
The former should be listing qualities that are inherent: goodness, decency, respect, honesty, etc. The latter is the list you have provided…characteristics/qualities that, if one is being honest with oneself, we would all like in a mate. Men and women.
I believe the need to have list has been ignored these days, and people are blinded by the nice to haves, thinking they are needs. And you get, in the end, what you deserve. So if you place a higher priority on material wealth, ignoring the qualities of decency and kindness…you may end up with a full closet, but a very empty life and heart…
To deserve a good man, all a woman needs is to be born.
Men too.
I disagree with the first answerer…. you can always get what you want for life… if you wait for it and pray about it. As for qualities, there are girls who can meet the right expectations you have though there are lots all over but you got to wait to pick. Its not like all the men also are good right?
love the one who accepts u as it is ,unconditionally and settle